My Boys :)

There is light and darkness in all of our lives. My guys have faced and still face their own. They even struggle with each other sometimes ;), But unconditional love is a powerful thing. And I am grateful for it. I can't imagine my life without these two...

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Project 52 - Week 6 "hands"

I don't know if it is is trying to get attention by acting out or if he just feeling attached to the little things he keeps "finding", but my kindergartner has turned to stealing...

His hands get him in trouble a lot, with his impulsiveness. He throws things, hits, pushes, hugs and loves on pets and people without concern about how appropriate it might be.

Its just like a compulsion. He gets consequences for these actions but doesn't seem to have the self control to recall the social "rules" about these things before the does them.

Just like lots of kids struggling to learn the rules, but a little harder.

So here he is, attaching special meaning to a trivial little object and tucking it away...

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Project 52 / Childhood Memories

Playing in the backyard with the siblings, I did a lot of this as a child growing up in the country and my kids do it all the time. Just making up games and entertaining each other. We rarely have play dates, but with kids 7,5 and 3 years old, they love to play together. Its a blessing!

Raising Einstein

“Few are those who see with their own eyes and feel with their own hearts.” - Albert Einstein


I found this quote the other day and instantly found consolation.

We've been struggling with Wild Man's kindergarten experience. Its been a daily challenge to adjust and modify and advocate changes just to see if things will get better. Never knowing exactly what will do the trick. Just learning as we go. There is no other way to figure it out because there has NEVER been another him.

We have had hard days and better days, never easy days.

But this quote reminds me of how worthwhile our efforts are. I am reminded that even though every thing is HARDER for him (and us), it actually is a gift to raise one of the "few". We call our [special needs] kids "special" or "exceptional" for a reason. They really are.

Amazingly special and astoundingly unique. Einstein's mother went through it.

Whenever people try to console me about living with aspergers, they always go to the famous aspies "bill gates has aspergers and look how amazing he did, Einstein too!" and all I can ever think about is how on earth did their mothers survive, how did they cope, what resources did they have??? 

Because,

seriously...

 raising Einstein couldn't have been easy! 

A diagnosis

My son has Aspergers.


He isn't any different today than he was a week ago, but now he has Aspergers. Now he has an explanation. It's like putting glasses on. I keep looking at him thinking "of course, it makes so much sense...".

We didn't rush to this diagnosis. It's been a long year since we started seeking professional help. It's been a long 3 years dealing with his "quirky" behaviors. I knew in my gut that he was different. I knew he saw things different, felt them different, understands things different.


He's always been him. Now we understand why we don't understand. Now we can learn how to understand.